MIJN SEKS IS STUK
THE STORY.
Differences in sex drive are omnipresent in relationships. The cliché is that he wants it more often than she does, but the other way around can can happen just as much. Desire can be about frequency, but also about the ‘how’ of sex. Wishes and desires differ and change over time. But that the flames of the first period in a relationship begin to slumber and sometimes even go out is recognizable to almost every couple.
In Mijn Seks is Stuk (translated to My Sex is Broken), Lize Korpershoek investigates why her desire for sex within her relationships always disappears after the first infatuation. Can love be sustained without sex? And why do we find sex so important? Through a personal quest, Lize explores female sexuality, what the origin of her problem is, whether it is a problem at all and whether her sex can be made ‘whole’ again.
THE PRODUCTION.
By talking to other women, Lize discovered that she was not the only one with little desire for sex. Instead of accepting this fact any longer, she came up with the idea of making a film about it. We were paired up early in the process, resulting in a very intimate collaboration. In Mijn Seks is Stuk, she is as open, honest and vulnerable as possible. The problem lies on the surface, namely: no desire for sex. But the root of the problem is much less visible and for that she had to dig very deep.
My role
Director and camera
Release
December 2019
Length
35 minutes
Film location
the Netherlands
Year of production
2019
Broadcaster
VPRO
More info on
www.vpro.nl
The cause of decreased desire is a many-headed monster. From inadequate and biased education and submissive socialization to putting enormous pressure on yourself because you have to have sex.
THE STILLS.
